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INSEPARABLE Toddler

My 18 months toddler is whining again this morning. Maybe he knows he is going to nanny place and he doesn’t want to get out from his bed and cover himself with his warm blanket. Oh, dear I will be late to work. I carried him and he is definitely not happy and cries on top of his lung. Poor little thing, mummy is sorry for being so mean early in the morning. He cries for daddy – I think he wants hubby to rescue him that moment. Hubby hugs him and put him nicely on the stroller before waving goodbye. I have been telling Jaden repeatedly each morning that we are going to work, he need to stay with nanny until we returns. I know he is listening to my every word. He is silent, bows his head down for sympathy and says “work-work”, he hugs me on the way. Reaching nanny doorsteps, the tragic comes, and you will feel so bad as if you are making a wrong decision not to become a full time mum instead. He yells out “mie-mieee………. mie-mie…….mie-mie………….” sobbing with his eyes barely opens. I leave the place and to work. Gosh, every morning has been so difficult lately. How long would a child whine? I had some of my questions answered from this website.

Motherly instinct may still convinced me with the rest of the answer.
a) He could want more attention and wants to be with us at home lately after he returns from the hospital.
b) One half division of our attention has been given to our little girl
c) Less outing recently due to the current H1N1 viral outbreak.

Are we too old for Clubbing?

Thanks to mum and dad for taking care of our two little angels over this weekend while we can sneak out to my best friend’s wedding. Yes, yes, my clinging son is out of the sight for few hours, April might not bother what we are up to, she will be just fine if her milk is on time for her. Me and hubby are pretty excited and start to plan for something after the wedding dinner. Thinking for a plan these days seem difficult. “Clubbing” gets to the aura as he plays “Teriyaki Boys” songs adapted from the movie “Fast and Furious 4”. Ticks! Yes! Clubbing tonight. SMS the groom and bride and Amanda, invited Lee Wah too… Groom says he will be too drunk by then; bride will be having an early morning breakfast before her brother leave to US the next day. Mind to say at our age, most are NOT up to night life as one will start to yawn, another will start to give excuse, and another will say we are too old, ended back to home. Even “mamak” tradition does not suit us now – for health reason. I should opt for something more interesting in the next get-together. *Wink*

Weddings are a Blessing

Being so silly, I could weep happily every time I read this over and over again.
Watching my best friend getting her hair done for her wedding dinner, it flashes back 3 years ago when she and Ivan just met at our wedding. Felicia (my childhood friend) happens to be my bridesmaid then and Ivan (our college housemate) was hubby’s best man. Both are our darling.
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I wandered too far when Felicia caught me back. Her eyes sparkle and say she will be delivering this speech during the dinner and read to me. I nodded and she began saying how she eyed on Ivan the moment she met him, how she admires his singing talent and how Ivan brings happiness to her life and her family , she had never seen her mom so happy until after Ivan joins her family. She is thankful for having him in her life. It’s very difficult to express it over wordings here, but before she could finish with her words, I hug and weep. She was stunned. I am really happy for her, and Ivan – you better take care of my lovely sister. I never seen her so happy and yes, Ivan is meant for her. Congrats Fet and hopes you will be joining me in motherhood not long! Love you.
As I got home, I told my sister about it, and for definite I would get too emotional the 2nd time during my sister’s wedding. My baby sister is getting married to the man she loved dearly.
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Oh Dear, get me a huge absorbent napkin… I think I could be worse than my mum and even worse when April is getting married in future!!

Fever and Rashes on Arms and Legs – Part 3

Jaden was discharged after 2 nights at Tawakal. His fever subsides entirely and doctor claimed that he has got viral fever (thank GOD it wasn’t H1N1) and the rashes was probably due to his allergy to penicillin (a strong ingredients in one of the prescribe antibiotic and fever medicine). The nebulizer is effective. It reliefs his breathing which was due to phlegm. Thanks all for the well wishes.

Fever and Rashes on Arms and legs - Part 2

Browsing my Facebook, Yes, June. I agree with your statement. "Over-exhausted" taking care of a "sick" child. Let me describe my experience at the ward:

a) Jaden is very-very active even he is down with fever.
b) He walks, hops, falls, crawls, even slides...
c) He walks to everywhere, and trying to be "Einstein" touching things and wondering how every single thing works. The nebuliser, stethoscope, medicine pump, bed rail, bed lifter, doors, tables, drawers, cups, spoons, tissues, dustbin, tv remote control - you named it.
d) You can find sugar packs in some drawers.
e) He wants to play peek-ka-boo in the hospital. Finding "mie-mie" and say "Chu-chak.."
f) He says he want to eat and towards the end pat the leftover on his shirt and pant and show you a tongues' out sign.
g) He talks to nurses and patients and say "bye-bye"
h) He expects you to chase him and wants "che-che" to play with him. Poor thingy, "che-che" patient ignored him and "che-che" is too tired and sick to have fun with him.

And finally, before you can even get a rest on the comfy bed, you are waken by the nurses who comes in "different" hour for nebuliser (for bronchitis relief), medicine, check for temperature, meal serving, hot water, daily newspaper, general cleaning, doctor's check up, observation round by nurses, and bed making.

I enjoyed their set meal at least. Haven't had a complete on time meal for some time.. LOL

Fever and Rashes on arms and legs - Part 1

Jaden was admitted to Tawakal Hospital for his rashes and further checkup on his fever. Fever was there since Sunday, subsides a little and struck again. It has been five days and doctor recommend us to get him warded. We are being too worried on his condition. You name it. From the chinese method of reducing heat (flour mix with egg, roll the entire dough on his body - I do not know how this works but no harm trying as we are already ran out of idea), checking on every part of internet and the outcome of fever and rashes have a results of over thousands causes! Would it be roseola? denggi? - can't be denggi as the spots was too big. Measles? - can't be as he has just taken his MMR injection and measles should starts from head or body. H1N1? he don't seem to have diarhea. Mouth, hand and foot disease? No spot of rashes on and around his mouth. And when an idea of asking God (as maybe something is bothering him during this "ghost" - the seventh month of Chinese calendar), things are getting even more intensed here.

Anger Management towards toddler

I am so exhausted not knowing what's wrong with Jaden. He is being a "cry-baby" these few days and need my whole lot attention. Juggling between everything, I couldn't help but throw my anger to him, unintentionally. I had always been very patient at all times but not this time round. My mum reminds me today "Let him be, he is not feeling well. Try to compromise.." I had to go to work the next day for audit, I have to leave him with my mum. I know this is hard for everyone, hardest for him. I had to sneak out as usual as he would cry for me. I do not know how long I had to do this, when is the time he would just say "bye-bye" happily when I leave to work or apart from him? Sigh..dont think it will happen in seconds, or even days...or months??? Mum & dad bring him out for dinner, mum says he would call "mie-mie" looking at two lady at another table where her back and hair reassembles me. Oh dear! I wept. I missed him so much and I made my mum cried too. She assures me she will take care of my baby.

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Today I drive to work and one topic on Lite FM hits me. It was on Anger Management towards children. It summarise on how children behavioural affected by our anger. Will read more on this topic.

Hard Boil Egg & Syillings Reducing Fever

Last 2 day at midnight, we are at Taman Desa Medical Centre for Jaden's fever check-up. Glad to know he is not being diagnosed with N1H1 viral, we went home with medication syrup for fever, cough, flu and phlegm. Antibody medication only will be given to babies if situation got worsen. I had to take leave to take care of him the next two days and don't think I could handle everything (from expressing breastmilk, preparing lunch, looking after my fever-yet very active kiddo) I opt to go to my parent place for an assistance. ;p

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Finally Jaden doozed to sleep after his milk and his "walk-walk".Yesterday midnight is a drama for me, mum & dad. He is having a high fever at 39.2 degree. We are then busy patting him with cold wet clothes, measuring his temperature, boiling eggs, carrying him to & fro etc etc.. Before I know what's happening futher after my mum carry him out the room, I am already too tired as I slept throughout the "morning". Just some guide to young mums like me - should try out the Grandma egg-reducing-fever techniques before bothering to bring your kiddo for further medication. No harm trying these apart from the doctors medication. It works for Jaden at least.

Egg-Reducing-Fever techniques
(i) Boil an egg for 15-20 minutes until its harden, scoop it up from the hot water and peel off its skin
(ii) Get 1 or 2 old and new coins (preferably big 50 cents coins), slot in between the egg.
(iii)Using a thin handkerchief, cover the entire egg (with syillings in it). It will look like a dough.
(iv) Roll the "dough" when its still hot around his chest, forehead, neck, behind hand and leg joints and stomach. (Not to switch on the fan or air-condition while doing this)
(v) Once done, you should be anticipate to see the outcome like this:

(Blue means wind, red means heat)

Never know how the syilling works scientifically, probably anyone could share with me?

April - Babbling at 3 months - She is a "Gemini" chatterbox

"Yes, April, go to sleep..Mummy is tired. We will chat tomorrow morning, okay?" And she is still babbling after her milk at 4am. Yawn...I need to sleep after feeding her every two hour at night. But she is still looking at me blankly and I couldn't help to chat with her for another minutes..She is definitely a Gemini baby - a chatterbox.

Check out this for fun baby horoscope matching.

A joy to a family ;D

Its an excitement getting to know that my sis is pregnant. Meaning I will have another people to share my thoughts on babies and she will have a mentor throughout this wonderful journey. The day I know she is "getting" pregnant (meaning not even confirmed), I am already being an enthusiastic over the news..will it be a nephew or niece? Let me see, will she be conceiving a girl, a boy, baby born in tiger metal year 2010, a taurus?? She says I am going crazy..Haha. Probably being the eldest in the family, I will always treat her like a grown up baby. And from there I gave her tons of advice and fill-flooded her with questions. You'd better start to consume your Acid-Folic, sis. "What is that for?" - the moment I heard this, I know she has no idea what's ahead of her. There I goes acting like mum getting her some Anmum milk powder for pregnant woman, the book of "Is my pregnancy normal by....", not to mentioned smses just to ensure she is fine. My sis is going to be a mother soon. I am so happy for her..

Finding Mie-Mie Again...

"Mie-Mie... Nen-Nen...", Okay, guess I am Jaden's Idol for his nen-nen. Probably in his mind without mummy means no nen-nen.. Jaden is with his grandma today and yes on the phone I told him "You have to be a good boy with grandma, k? Mummy picking you tomorrow and Mummy already pack your nen-nen and grandma will make for you shortly..." MIL say he listen to my every word. Good lil' boy, guess my half offday will be ending few hour later as not to forgotten I have to pick April from nanny's place earlier today and yes.. to spent some time with hubby in between..

Remote Controlled Car?

We bought a new remote controlled car for Jaden from Toy "R" Us warehouse sale yesterday at Dataran Hamodal PJ. Since I forgot to get the car some new batteries, I just let him play with the car without the remote controller last nite. To my surprise this morning, Jaden opens his toy box, found the remote control and headed to his crib, telling me "pooo...poooo" (Jaden's word for car). Astonished, I ask my hubby whether he showed Jaden how this things work, and both of us shook our head..Maybe he saw this in the shopping centre before - and gee... what a great memory he has! I thought doctor use to say babies have short memory - or maybe its just me with a short memory...

Mur Mur Sound at April's Heart

What should have been a normal checkup at the paediatrician's office ended up as a cause for concern. Our girl April was getting her vaccination and we realised something was amiss when the doctor took more than 10 minutes to listen to her heart through his stethoscope.

According to the doctor, our child had a murmur in her heart.

Naturally worried, we asked what could be the cause.

She told us that the worst possibility was that it was a hole in our baby's heart.

I could not believe that and looking at our active 2.5-month-old baby girl, we did not suspect anything. How could we?

We were then advised to monitor her condition. Should her body turn blue when she cried, we needed to take her to the hospital immediately.

We asked the paediatrician the many questions that popped in our heads. In the end she wrote us a referral letter to see a cardiologist for a further checkup.

It was really scary for us because our child had not had any problems before that and our 18-month-old son had not had any health problems either.

I had sleepless nights for a whole week after that. I began searching the Internet for information and asking friends and relatives for advice.

The more information we had, the more we discovered that the symptoms matched what our daughter had, and the more worried I became.

Imagine knowing that one of the symptoms of hole-in-the heart babies is slow weight gain.

Slow weight gain could be no cause for alarm and yet it could very well be one of the symptoms of a hole in the heart.

I became more paranoid.

Feeling helpless, I opted to go for a second opinion.

The second doctor said she did hear a tiny murmur but it was hardly audible. After a complete examination, she said it was a normal murmur and that we had nothing to worry about for now. She explained that the placement of the heart’s artery could cause a murmur.

As for the weight gain, she said it’s normal for breastfed babies.

Nevertheless, it is still safe to monitor our baby's condition.

I learnt a lesson from this and I hope other parents will also learn to get a second opinion before jumping to conclusions.

This article features at Parenthots September 2009.