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Seven Things You Should Never Say to Your Toddler

Here is one article that is shared from my sister. I find it really true, and useful when you are having two kiddos at home. ;)

Don’t cry
Toddlers will cry when they are upset, hungry, angry, frustrated, sad. When they feel discomfort and unable to voice out, they will communicate their feelings and need the way they know how. Try saying “You are crying because you are ...” or “You need my help in ...” It is more comforting to a toddler when you are understanding and supportive rather than condescending.

Are you ready to go?
Toddlers do not keep time like adults do. They need time to prepare for making transitions. Prior to the scheduled time for leaving, inform your toddler what will happen in a few minutes time.

Help her to pack up to get ready. When it is time to leave, say to your child: “You are all ready to leave and go home. I am so glad we are all set.”

Why do you keep doing this? I have told you so many times ...
Toddlers are naturally impulsive. They do what they like and when they like it. They like repetition. They live for the present. Say: “Remember we keep our floors dry. Stop splashing water or you will have to leave this area. Wet floors are dangerous. You can get hurt when the floors are wet.” Always repeat what is important so that your toddler can do it correctly.

Share your toys with your friend.
The concept of ownership is clear to the child but not with sharing. They are still new to this social behaviour. Sharing for toddlers really mean “I am giving away to you.”

It is best to say to your toddler “Your friend likes to play with your toys. You can play with your toys and he can also play with your toys.

Stop jumping around and be quiet.
Toddlers are active. It is practically impossible to stop being their natural selves. When the noise level gets intolerable, work out a plan that your toddler is comfortable with like “You can jump for five minutes and after that, we can read a book together.”

You cannot take without asking first. Say “please”.
Manners are learned over time. As they are older, they will start to use more social graces. Toddlers fare better with positive statements such as “Smile and say “May I?”

You cannot touch this.
When you say this to your toddler, he receives a very different message. He hears only two words “touch this”. He will do exactly that and play with it. If there is something you do not want your toddler to get his hands on, remove it from his sight or distract him to do something else.
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  1. It was very nice reading this, but I'm sorry & can't commit to this for my kids. When controlling my EQ to do all this, in actual fact I'll say NO NO NO, maybe a mother to 3, is loosing her patience.

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  2. At times they are really testing our patience. ;P. But this article is really something to ponder. Kids nowadays are brilliant. I had experienced the same thing in the article and hey, I need to learn to treat them differently now. Previously they are CEO , now they are like Datuk and Datin. ;D and we are the King and Queen, I don't want be their slaves any longer. ;)

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  3. i also learn from this article sis. i always said share the toys. and now im mroe careful on using my words and share with jack.And she always throw her toys. perhaps i should try distract her next time instead of getting angry and throwing my temper to her.so innocent girl :)

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